Dr. Tara Fields, who holds a Ph.D. in psychology, has extensive experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist. At her practice, Tara Fields, Ph.D., L.M.F.T., strives to help clients develop healthy and fulfilling romantic relationships.
Relationships should make people feel good about themselves, but all too often, people find themselves in situations in which their partner belittles them or blames them for disagreements that occur. Sometimes, this behavior can be so subtle that it’s hardly noticeable. For instance, one partner might dismiss what the other is feeling, attributing their reaction to hormones or jealously. This type of treatment can, over time, lead to feelings of self-doubt in partners, as they wonder if they are, in fact, being unreasonable. Partners on the receiving end of belittlement may feel guilty and ashamed of how they acted, even if they had every right to react that way.
To help deal with and move past this type of harmful relationship dynamic, you should take an honest look at the situation. Many times, it’s a good idea to share your concerns with a person who can provide an objective view of the situation. For instance, talking with a trustworthy friend about specific incidents that have been concerning you can help you gain perspective. Similarly, seeking the help of a therapist, whether alone or as a couple, can go a long way in rebuilding confidence and getting to the root of the issues in your relationship.
Relationships should make people feel good about themselves, but all too often, people find themselves in situations in which their partner belittles them or blames them for disagreements that occur. Sometimes, this behavior can be so subtle that it’s hardly noticeable. For instance, one partner might dismiss what the other is feeling, attributing their reaction to hormones or jealously. This type of treatment can, over time, lead to feelings of self-doubt in partners, as they wonder if they are, in fact, being unreasonable. Partners on the receiving end of belittlement may feel guilty and ashamed of how they acted, even if they had every right to react that way.
To help deal with and move past this type of harmful relationship dynamic, you should take an honest look at the situation. Many times, it’s a good idea to share your concerns with a person who can provide an objective view of the situation. For instance, talking with a trustworthy friend about specific incidents that have been concerning you can help you gain perspective. Similarly, seeking the help of a therapist, whether alone or as a couple, can go a long way in rebuilding confidence and getting to the root of the issues in your relationship.