Tara Fields, Ph.D., is a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist (LMFT lic.MU20809), And has been in practice for over 28 years. Renowned couples therapist, Dr. Tara Fields recently authored a blog on the Huffington Post, which suggested three ways couples could save a troubled relationship.
1) Stop holding on to past grievances.
Whatever it is that happened in the past, however big or small it may have been, let it go. If your spouse has apologized, made real changes in his or her life, and hasn’t committed the offense again, allow yourself to forgive. Ultimately, you choose to either have your grievance or have love.
2) Build trust.
Perhaps trust was broken when one partner had an affair; whatever the reason, that trust must be regained. To do this, you must first acknowledge the hurt that was caused to your partner, then take responsibility for it. Finally, you must commit yourself to rebuilding the trust.
3) You don’t have to be right all the time.
Never giving in because you feel you are always right is a huge cause of relationship conflict. Put aside your ego, try to understand how your partner feels when you don’t agree, and ask yourself whether you
are gaining anything from the conflict. You may just be creating distance between the two of you.
1) Stop holding on to past grievances.
Whatever it is that happened in the past, however big or small it may have been, let it go. If your spouse has apologized, made real changes in his or her life, and hasn’t committed the offense again, allow yourself to forgive. Ultimately, you choose to either have your grievance or have love.
2) Build trust.
Perhaps trust was broken when one partner had an affair; whatever the reason, that trust must be regained. To do this, you must first acknowledge the hurt that was caused to your partner, then take responsibility for it. Finally, you must commit yourself to rebuilding the trust.
3) You don’t have to be right all the time.
Never giving in because you feel you are always right is a huge cause of relationship conflict. Put aside your ego, try to understand how your partner feels when you don’t agree, and ask yourself whether you
are gaining anything from the conflict. You may just be creating distance between the two of you.